Brené Brown said this well, when she told Oprah this, “It’s important that we find friends that love us not despite our imperfection but because of it. The move the body friends. To look for the folks who are going to show up and wade through the deep with us. Often times, we steamroll over those people to get the attention and approval of people who will never show up for us like that. Trying to please or prove ourselves to them. It’s hard to practice compassion when we are struggling with our own authenticity or when our own worthiness is off balance.”
Everybody needs at-least 1-2 move your body friends in their lives, and on #nationalbestfriendday I am reflectiong on those friendships and praying that we all cherish those types of folks in our lives, and if we don’t have them, I pray we notice when they show up even when they don’t come dressed in the package we expect.
One lesson a friend told me years ago that has stuck with me since is that, “some friends are roses (they are super pretty, but only last for a season, when winter aka tough times arise they literally can’t withstand the “temperature” change), some friends are evergreens (last through all seasons) and often times those evergreens don’t come in the package we expect them too”. Essentially she was saying how we can be so particular about who we want around us and sometimes miss out on really dope relationships because those people don’t “fit” what we envision as the right people or shoot person. I say person because I think that’s applicable to the standards we place on finding that special someone (I’m guilty). None the less, I needed to hear that statement at the time. Moral of the post, cherish the evergreens and for what it’s worth, appreciate the roses. You’re welcome. 😉